5 Pieces of Advice for Newlyweds

Getting married is truly a wonderful thing. What could be better than sharing your life with someone that you love deeply? Someone who will multiply all your joys in life and ease the burdens of your hard times. However, a marriage is a living, breathing thing that needs to be nourished just like you do. The following are five tips to help keep your marriage strong.

Love God

Your relationship with God will set the foundation for your relationship with your spouse. When you are in His will, you will know you are doing the right thing in all aspects of your life, including relationships. Think about the triangle metaphor. You and your spouse are the bottom points of a triangle and God is the top point. As you move closer to God, you move closer to each other without even trying.  Sometimes a little daily reminder can help us get through the day, like a Choose Love bracelet or necklace.  

Work Hard

Even when you’ve found the right one, it doesn’t mean that it will always be long walks on the beach and candlelit dinners.  Anything that’s worth something is worth working for and relationships are hard work. A good piece of advice is to never stop dating, each other, that is. Think about how hard you worked when you first began dating your spouse. You probably listened attentively, tried to figure out what they liked or disliked, and paid attention to their needs and wants. Once you get married, dating shouldn’t stop, in fact, it just becomes even more important.

Be Kind

There will come a time in every marriage when you will disagree or have an argument. Occasionally, there will even be times when you are 100% in the right and have the right to say so. However, you should always remember that it’s more important to be kind than it is to be right. Never say “I told you so” even when you really want to. Showing your spouse the kindness you would like to be shown yourself is the best answer to any disagreement. They don’t call it the golden rule for nothing.

Choose Love

Many times when couples are going through a rough patch, they may think they should call it quits because they’ve fallen out of love. It’s important to remember that love is more than feeling—it’s a verb and it’s an action. Whenever you don’t feel like you are “in love”, you have the ability to choose love anyway. You’ll never regret choosing to honor the commitments and vows you made to your spouse. Over a lifetime, you’ll find that you can fall in love with your spouse again and again if you choose to love and work hard at it.  Wear an inspirational piece of jewelry, like a Choose Love necklace, to get thru tough times. 

Serve Each Other

This doesn’t involve fanning your spouse with a giant palm leaf and hand-feeding them grapes. To put it another way, take care of each other. When your spouse is sick, do the late night run to the store for medicine. Get up with the kids on Saturday morning so your spouse can sleep in after a long work week. Most importantly, don’t keep score of who is bearing the greatest share of the load. If you focus on “how can I love my spouse today?” you won’t be worried about “what have you done for me?” and resentment won’t have a chance to become an issue.